Thursday, February 19, 2015

Everything Can Change in an Instant

This morning I woke up feeling very lucky. My parents are alive. Today could have been the worst day of my life.

I came home last night from a school meeting, pleased with myself that my inappropriate comments went over well, and I didn't put my foot in my mouth too much. I opened the door and heard the words that froze my entire body.

"Your parents were in a car accident tonight."

Pause.

It was the longest pause I've ever had to endure. Life with my parents truly flashed through my mind, and I was numb, trying to prepare myself for the next words.

"But they're fine."

Now, I wish I had heard the second sentence first, but I fell onto the couch, shaking with relief. My parents were driving to a friend's house when a car slammed into the passenger side of their Acura, shattering glass all over my father and throwing my mother into the steering wheel. The passenger side airbag deployed, saving my father from being stabbed by so much glass, but his nose was cut, his eye hemorrhaged, and he is bruised and battered. The airbag did not deploy on the driver's side, which prevented my mother from having her chest crushed. Still, her chest burned with pain, and an ambulance rushed them both to the hospital to check for heart attacks, broken bones, and internal injuries. The other drive is also fine, thank God, and they all walked away from what easily could have been a fatal accident. The car is totaled, and it doesn't matter.

My mother didn't want to tell me at first because I am prone to panic, especially when it comes to something horrible happening to the people I love. I have an unhealthy fear of that late night phone call, the police at the door -- the news that someone who is important to me has died. Death of my loved ones is inevitable, and I can't control it. This is something that is very hard for me to accept.

I got off the phone with my parents, who, though shaken, were okay. I felt grateful, lucky, and stupid for letting the small stresses of my day (a sick kid, parking tickets, a very long to-do list) get to me. I am so fortunate to be very close to my family and to always have their support and love. They have encouraged my every dream and passion, even when those dreams and decisions didn't align with their own. We have just gotten back from a week-long trip to the Dominican Republic. Ten of us, together day in and day out, enjoying our time together more every day. Not everyone has a family they know has their backs and loves them unconditionally. Not everyone has both or even one of their parents. Today, I realize that I truly have it all.

So, this morning, I have some perspective. It's freezing cold here in Toronto. I don't care. I have piles of work to do. I don't care. I have a wrinkly tummy. I don't care. All I care about is that my parents are safe, and I get to hear their voices for another day.

This perspective won't last long, I know, because the minutiae of life takes over, and I forget. But today I remember how much I have.

16 comments:

  1. Oh, Sammie! It's so scary how quickly ones life can change. What a night. I'm so glad that your folks are okay and that, if nothing else, the experience helped you put things into perspective. XOXO. I'm going to call my mom now!

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  2. You're so right that in the minutiae of daily life, we forget so easily what's truly important to us. I'm so glad everyone is safe, though shaken.

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    1. Thank you, Pauline! I hope I can keep that perspective for a while.

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  3. Hello, Natalia (@madworldtweets on Twitter) here. As I told you, I'm glad that it was all just a scary moment for you and your family and also, I encouraged you in my tweet to keep being grateful and positive because I think that, thanks to it and good luck of course, your parents are ok. Sad moments will be around, of course, but it's up to us to change that. This might be my first comment here (is it? I don't remember now haha), but I read your blog often and I really like how positive and happy you are, plus a fantastic writer, of course. But what I mean is: keep trusting in the good things of your life and everything will be fine.

    Again, I'm glad your family is ok. Take care. xx

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    1. Thank you, Amelie, so much. I think it is your first comment! Your support of my writing means a lot to me, as does what you said about my being positive. I try. :) Yes, focusing on the good and letting the bad go is what makes life as special as it is.

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  4. Oh my goodness, how scary! I'm so glad they were okay! It's definitely easy to get caught up in the daily little stresses of life. You have a lot to be thankful for today! (And every day!) :)

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    1. Thank you, Jackie. I really do. Including your friendship.

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  5. Thank God they're okay! And you're okay. You survived your husband''s clumsy delivery that could've given you a heart attack. Tell him, next time lead with the positive. "Honey, there's good news and there's bad news..." And yes, you're lucky to have both your parents. May they both live to be a hundred.

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    1. Thank you, Eileen. I wish it could be forever.

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  6. That is very scary. I'm glad they are ok.

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  7. Sending love, hugs and prayers. Thank you for sharing, Sam. xxx

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    1. Oh, thank you, Cindy! That means a lot to me. xoxo

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  8. Samantha, I am so happy that your parents are okay. How scary - for them & you.

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    1. Thank you, Allison. It was so scary, and I'm just happy to have them.

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